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So. In part, I add in myself and in part other people out at me. So I'm 24. I started dating them when I was 23 and. We were just dating. And then he got serious and I was like, you know, I had to question my own sexuality and before I, like, my actions are like, question all of that. And I just allow myself to explore it. Um, and so I started like posting her on Instagram and it was clear that I was dating this woman. Um, my family's seen that, particularly my cousin, one of my cousins who is also gay. He's a man who's gay, grew up his whole life, like knowing that he like other men. But whereas me and my previous partners were male, right? Um, so he decided to out me to his mom. And I just thought it was really hurtful and inconsiderate and selfish for him to out me out. Anyone else, having known what that process was like. The, um, growing up in a religious family who have strict gender norms, right? Um, no religion. And so that was, that was kind of painful. But, um, and then I just went about my life like I was dating her, but I lived with my grandparents who are religious and who believe God made men and women and, and that's it. Um, and so I knew there, there like, socialization. I mean, how they their disposition about it, right? Even though we have to like our gay queer folks in our family, um, I was seen as like, an example of, like, goodness, because I'm the first one. I got to have a college degree. I'm the first one that pursued a lot of things. And, um, yeah, they like going on a pedestal. And so for me to come out as queer was, um, shaking for them, like disturbing I guess in some ways. Um, and I was also I this way because I was living on my grandparents roof because I was with my partner and uh, I don't really know what's going on. And then someone's seen a friend, a family friend of my grandparents said that they see me holding hands with a woman and I so my grandmother knew and she found out that way and I was basically pressured to have a conversation with my grandmother and my grandfather and my dad, um, because they're my paternal grandparents, um, around my sexuality. And to me it was like it didn't make a difference because I'm still the person that I am and what I do in my private life or with whoever I'm with is then I guess I never really been your concern, right? Uh, and so why is it now? Is it because I'm queer, right? Um, and so I had this hard conversations, really difficult and uncomfortable. And meanwhile, like, I'm also in this process of, like, loving this woman and, like, it's very new for me to love a woman. Um, romantically, right? So it was, like, really challenging for me to navigate, um, and like, owning, like, my queerness. That was fine because I loved her and I wasn't going to hide. Um, but it was more about the disappointment for my, my father and my paternal grandparents, who I feel really connected to. And a lot of my identity comes from how such lies by them. Um, and so, and images and many other like very hurtful and negative patriarchal thinking, right, um, around gender dynamics, around masculine and feminine energy and like, who can do what in what's okay like me among those norms to within myself, but then also to my family and like being okay with being uncomfortable. And so it's really uncomfortable for me. Um, my grandparents, I had that conversation. My grandmother, she told me she's like, How are you going to hear? You're going to have, um, and I'm sorry. I'm sorry. Like, I, she's like, I knew so-and-so. Like, I think we're folks in our family were going, but, you know, like, you know, for sure you're going have like hell and damnation, As I like to say to you, hell and damnation, How could you? And then she asks me other questions and very intrusive questions about my sex life. And that's none of your concern. Since when did I ever open that up for discussion? But you think you have the right to that Because I'm queer, Because I'm exploring my own sexuality. You know, you're you're not. You're not. And so and I continue to engage her. I was like, what my who I'm dating romantically does not directly affect your life. It is not directly impact your life. They're not involved with their life. You know? I mean, however, she felt different. She felt like you did because it was a representation, because an example and reflection of her. Um, so that was, that was challenging to live under a roof. Ultimately, it was the reason why I live because I did not feel comfortable after her scolding me with all these, um, like biblical. Religious epithets or retorts. Um, my grandfather. I knew there was a conversation that was if we had it, we had it. If we didn't, we didn't. My grandmother would love me regardless and not cast all that judgment on me. Like he's going to say, like, you know, you love love. And I know because he loves me. You know, my he's not strict to his religious beliefs or like that, that this dominant narrative is right. Like he understands things a little bit differently. And so I knew that he knows I'm dating a woman, but it's never been a problem, him discussing it, you know? My dad told me that I had a mental problems in the back of my mind, having went overseas and studied abroad for months and lived on my own and graduated from one of the best universities in this country. Something's wrong with my mind because I wanted to love a mormon romantically. That really was hurtful to me. So I'm going through all these things, explore my sexuality. I'm learning it for myself. I'm learning a lot of things. And then I've come on, like confronted with this conflict within my family and with folks, I feel like I have really strong, deep connections to because of my like my how I identify myself, like have socialized through them. Right. And like those connections that we built through like me growing up and that trust in those bonds, like, they they were disturbed. They were rocked during that time. Um, and ultimately they left, like leaving me, leaving my my family's house. Mm hmm.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56650/file/130845#t=6.18,426.78"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56650/file/130845/transcript/44931/annotation/3","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Evan, do you talk about coming out on social media? I just want to know, like, how did you feel participating your your sexuality on social media? It's obvious that it's been challenging with your family, but did you talk about a very like something that happened Very like natural, organic? Mm hmm.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56650/file/130845#t=427.8,450.69"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56650/file/130845/transcript/44931/annotation/4","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e So funny story is like I posted a picture of her and I was like, something. Something sacred space, you know? I was like, She's my woman. Christian music. She's dope. You know, other women do that. So it's not necessarily what I'm going to definitely jump to the conclusion that you're dating that person. Um, and then I just kept posting, like, pictures of people, I mean, of like her, but not her face or like, I wouldn't, I wouldn't be as it wouldn't like, sometimes it wouldn't be obvious. Like the first pitch I was ever was her face and her smiling was on Christmas Day. And then like, after that, like, progressed. But, and then it just came like, yeah, this is day and it's how I feel about like, I'm so in love. And she's really amazing. And I did my things and folks supported me. And other folks who had different opinions knew not to bring that to me unless you wanted to call me about it because you can have it is opinion on social media, but it believe that I'm going to engage you. So actually no one like confronted me on social media like, hello, this isn't jus like on a public platform. No one did that. I had a lot of love, a lot of likes, like like really happy that I was happy and grateful for me and things like that. Um, but I know that there are family members and friends who disagree with my lifestyle, and that's totally okay. But keep that negative energy where that does bring it here. And that's just how I feel about it. So my social media, the reception was really well actually, like I didn't get any like people hate speech or anything like that.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56650/file/130845#t=452.07,542.07"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56650/file/130845/transcript/44931/annotation/5","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e And your feelings before doing it, did you feel nervous? Did you like. Yeah, I was.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56650/file/130845#t=542.64,547.47"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56650/file/130845/transcript/44931/annotation/6","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e I was I was I was like wondering, but like it was like, oh, so lovely. Like she just said, you know, like I was caught up in, like, this freshness of it and like, she's amazing in, like, never did I ever want to hate her. And so even when me, like, engaged, like my attraction to her, I was like, whoa, I'm much like this woman. I'm like, sexually and romantically and emotionally attracted to this woman, like, and mentally and spiritually. I was different things and was like, Yo, has it come to know that in myself and me knowing that the empowering and it felt liberating to me, I felt brings in me. So I just want to share that freedom with other folks, you know? Um, yeah. Like.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56650/file/130845#t=547.68,584.37"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56650/file/130845/transcript/44931/annotation/7","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Um, do you have anything you want to add to this particular question or just this topic?","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56650/file/130845#t=586.38,591.12"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56650/file/130845/transcript/44931/annotation/8","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e I would just say for folks who have family members who come out gay or queer at whatever age, um, try to come from a place of understanding, try to. And if you do not understand, seek, seek to understand, be curious. Um, because it can, it can like bring forth like irreparable damage if you come thinking with like your predispositions or these judgments that you made on people because a lot of people. A lot like a lot of people I know feel like as long as it's not my so-and-so. Kind of like the not in my backyard idea, as long as it's not my bugs. Right. But then when it comes, your folks is complicated and you give people differently, right? Um, so I would just say, like, challenge yourself, challenge yourself on that because this world isn't going to get better if we keep finding ways to divide ourselves. Like, at the end of the day, we're all human beings. We all want connection and love, and we all deserve those beings. Whichever way that comes, whatever way form that looks like. Um, it's not for us to judge, is not for us to place value on it, where we're in our own bodies, living our own lives. Right? Um, so that's what I'd say. Uh, yeah. Okay. Thank you. Thank you.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56650/file/130845#t=594.24,676.36"}]},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56650/file/130845/transcript/44931","type":"AnnotationPage","label":{"en":["English [Transcript]"]},"items":[{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56650/file/130845/transcript/44931/annotation/9","type":"Annotation","motivation":"subtitling","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"https://d9jk7wjtjpu5g.cloudfront.net/file_transcripts/associated_files/000/044/931/original/open-uri20230706-255393-fh389z?1688667388","format":"text/vtt","language":"en"},"target":"https://d9jk7wjtjpu5g.cloudfront.net/file_transcripts/associated_files/000/044/931/original/open-uri20230706-255393-fh389z?1688667388"}]}]}]}