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So basically, I. I just need to I just want you to kind of tell me your story and it's pretty loose, you know, That's basically just the question. Just tell me your coming out story. All right. I think I'm just going to put this right here. It's the recording. It sure is. All righty.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=2.19,27.33"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/2","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e Here we go. So I'm telling a story. So basically, I when I first, like, had feelings for people of the same gender as me, while same biological gender as females was when I was younger. Probably started around like elementary school and then middle school. It was really pronounced. It was like, Oh my God, I want to just grab this verse. And then, yeah, it was very pronounced in middle school.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=28.5,60.57"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/3","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Mm hmm.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=61.02,61.26"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/4","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e Um, so I knew from a young age that I felt more comfortable with being romantically and physically attracted to biological females than I did biological males.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=62.02,72.33"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/5","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Mm hmm.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=72.88,72.97"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/6","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e So I first talked to my parents about it.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=73.47,76.47"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/7","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Oh, really?","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=76.98,77.22"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/8","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e Yeah.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=78.03,78.03"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/9","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Before, like anybody else. Oh, okay. Yeah, that's. That's. Bree, if I may. Well.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=78.39,84.96"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/10","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e My family situation is also weird. I honestly would today look back on my childhood and say that I lived in an abusive household.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=85.95,94.5"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/11","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Okay.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=95.22,95.22"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/12","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e So part of the reason that I had said everything to my parents and to my parents first is because my parents put me in a habit of reporting everything to them. Oh. So it's not as if I even had a choice to keep my thoughts to myself. Okay. And I felt like if I didn't tell them, they would know anyway.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=95.76,114.87"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/13","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Oh, yeah. Okay. Mm hmm.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=116.34,118.41"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/14","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e So I told my parents, you know, like, I think I like girls, you know, using language back then.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=119.43,126.42"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/15","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Mm hmm.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=126.96,127.03"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/16","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e And my mom was like, Well, she asked me, Are you sure? Yeah. And she said, Well, how do you know? And I said, I just do. And then this is when I was younger. Okay? Mm hmm. I hadn't even had my period yet.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=127.65,145.98"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/17","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Mm hmm.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=146.37,146.5"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/18","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e When this happened close, though, it was around, like, 11 or.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=147.06,149.43"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/19","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e 12 years old. Mm hmm.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=149.52,150.25"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/20","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e And then she was like, Well, when you masturbate.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=151.08,156.84"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/21","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Well.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=158.85,158.85"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/22","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e That's what she said. She's like, when you masturbate.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=160.44,161.64"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/23","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Oh, my God.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=162.33,162.69"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/24","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e Who do you think about?","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=163.53,164.28"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/25","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Oh, my God. Do you guys.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=164.64,166.35"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/26","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e You reading about girls? And I didn't answer her question, and she just left it at that. I didn't answer the question because I didn't really feel comfortable answering that question. The answer, honestly, would have been girls.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=166.89,182.49"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/27","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Mm hmm. But it's so super private. Right. And I.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=183.21,190.53"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/28","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e Think if you're going to really have a conversation about your child's sexuality, I think it needs to be more than just, Well.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=190.71,197.82"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/29","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e What do you masturbate do you like?","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=198.09,199.17"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/30","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e It's almost intimidating and makes it made me not want to keep talking.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=200.28,206.91"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/31","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Uh huh. Yeah.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=207.63,208.32"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/32","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e So later on after that, I didn't talk to my parents about it. I started talking to friends. I journaled about it.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=209.25,216.0"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/33","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Mm hmm.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=216.3,216.39"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/34","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e You know, and I would write. I write letters, you know, pass them across the classroom to other students. Be like, I basically had a lot of conversations with my high school friends about my sexuality. Yeah. Freshman year, when I went to it, I went to a loser in high school. It was really bad.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=216.84,233.04"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/35","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Because.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=233.55,233.55"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/36","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e That's when I decided to come out.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=234.69,236.49"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/37","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Oh, my gosh.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=236.85,237.33"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/38","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e Um, I didn't really have any social experience because my parents honestly never let me hang out with anyone growing up. I didn't go outside and play with kids. Hmm. I played with my neighbor, but it's like it's your neighbor. Yeah. I didn't actually have really much of an opportunity to learn social skills like other kids did, because my parents never let me interact with other people. So what was I saying? Oh, yeah. So over the summer, one of my friends had come back. He had left the school. I was out and then came over the summer to volunteer. Yeah. And I was also volunteering and he was like, telling everyone that he's gay because he had recently come out. And so I was like, okay, so if you're gay, then you'll understand what I'm going through. Like, what do you think? You're lesbian? And I said, Really? And he said, Yeah, because that that's. I'm to around that age. When I started hitting puberty, I also started experiencing gender dysphoria, like not really feeling like I set in my body gender. So I was like, okay, I'm transgender and I'm straight and I like girls. 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Because if you say so, he knows everything because he's gay.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=317.92,325.0"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/41","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Yeah, of course.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=325.39,325.96"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/42","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e And so being like a baby, queer, whatever, I just went along with it, and I was pretty.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=327.76,332.44"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/43","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e First of all, I love that term. Can I just say it? So that's for you? Yeah.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=333.22,338.58"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/44","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e I love that.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=340.12,340.42"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/45","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e One girl a little bit.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=341.71,343.36"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/46","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e So then what happened was like, I was super excited to tell people, just like he was. Mm hmm. So I didn't think that. Oh, yeah, I'm not a loser in school. It's probably more like an idea because I really didn't have, like, common sense.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=346.24,358.42"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/47","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e With social at all. Okay.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=359.29,360.46"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/48","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e And that's what also made me really vulnerable to certain kinds of people. So when I went to live in high school, I was really open and I was just like, Yeah, I was me. And then they they're like, That's not okay. It's a sin or whatever. So then I actually didn't have any friends at that school because they isolated me because they thought I was gay. Yeah. And then, um, that kind of led me to do, like, I go back in the closet kind of thing. Oh. So I ended up going back in the closet. And then after I changed schools, I went to public school and I talked to people about it more. And I had guy friends and I had a, you know, just like a high school boyfriend kind of thing. Mm hmm. But, like, it didn't work. He was like, you know, I kind of notice these things about you. I feel like you're not really actually attracted to me. And I'm like, Yeah, I'm not, to be honest with you.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=361.27,415.9"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/49","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e I think it was you. Mm hmm.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=416.17,417.58"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/50","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e And he's like, Okay, well, if you are, then it's better if we break up, be friends, and you're just happy. So it's like I was happy with that. I was like, Okay, that's cool. I'm with someone who, like, understands this and me and accept me. And same thing to like, you know, I don't feel comfortable wearing girls clothes. So then he would let me borrow his jackets or whatever. Oh, that's cool. So I feel more comfortable with my body and my gender. But then my parents started noticing because I would wear jackets all the time and they were like, Oh, it's because you're hiding. Like, we have a problem with you. You're hiding something from us. Like my parents were very like, We need to know everything about you, what you're thinking, what you're doing, hanging out with all the way down to, like, bathroom stuff. Yeah, I hadn't.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=418.12,458.92"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/51","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Yeah.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=460.7,460.7"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/52","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e So that's definitely probably another story for another time. But yeah, yeah, it did. I'm just bringing it up because it did have a really big influence on me coming out when I did.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=461.86,472.09"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/53","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Yeah.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=472.45,472.45"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/54","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e So I came out to my parents again.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=473.38,474.25"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/55","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Okay. Again.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=475.9,477.32"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/56","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e And this time I said, Hey, Mom, I'm lesbian. I actually use the word. I didn't ask her. I came out and told her.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=478.21,485.62"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/57","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Right.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=485.95,485.95"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/58","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e And she said, okay, I don't think so. And I was like, What do you mean you don't think so? And she said, Well, your brother hasn't come out yet, but we're pretty sure he's gay and we just don't think you are. Literally, that's so. She said, Yeah, okay. And I was like, Well, using my brother's gay because of the things that he does or he says. And I'm like, But just because I don't do this, this is what I was thinking. I didn't say that because I couldn't say these things to my parents. But I was thinking, well, to this because I don't do the same things, like she doesn't even treat us the same way. So why would you know? She think I'm not gay?","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=486.52,529.81"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/59","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Mm hmm.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=530.32,530.43"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/60","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e And so then this is when I started getting really bad, because in my dad, he was accepting of it. But almost like it's because it was entertaining for him. Yeah.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=531.34,544.84"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/61","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e So that's a new one.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=545.38,546.22"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/62","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e Yeah.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=547.36,547.36"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/63","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e I was never okay.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=547.9,548.83"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/64","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e He would use it as, like, a card against me where anytime something would happen or I'd do something, he's like, Oh, you're fucking Asian. And then you're like.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=549.31,557.47"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/65","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Oh, what a fag.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=558.49,559.36"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/66","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e Asian. Oh, Asian.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=560.05,561.89"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/67","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Oh my gosh. Yeah.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=562.63,563.87"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/68","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e Or I'd be like, Oh, no, you know, you're a fake Asian. That's what fags Asians do. And then like, so it's like he was accepting and yet he wasn't really. It was more of just something for him to entertain himself with, I think. Whereas my brother just my brother didn't say anything at all. He just silently supported me. Mhm. He, I, he would lend me his clothes, he gave me his boxers for crying out loud like hmm. He, he was supportive even though he was afraid to be supportive. But I also think he didn't want to be picked on either, because since my parents did think he was gay, they would also make remarks about it sometimes and be like, When are you coming out with.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=566.68,613.68"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/69","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Oh, they would say like they would say that, yeah, they.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=614.08,616.74"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/70","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e Would say that to him. And he's like, What do you mean? When am I coming out? I'm not gay. You know? So for us, for him, you know, they're forcing acceptance on him and he's not ready. Whereas for me, I needed the acceptance and they weren't giving it to me.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=616.86,630.99"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/71","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Was he? Maybe this isn't a good question, but is he actually gay or. Oh, okay.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=631.68,637.89"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/72","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e No, like he is.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=638.55,641.31"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/73","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Huh.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=641.88,641.88"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/74","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e I know that for sure.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=642.69,643.41"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/75","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Uh huh.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=643.69,643.75"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/76","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e Um, but that's his story, too, right? It's. It's not mine. Um, but so after that, I was like, you know, my mom just told me, you know, you're confused, but there's no such thing as bisexual. She was like, You're either gay or straight, and I know you like you're she. And then she was like, Are you just doing the gender thing for your attention? Cause I told her about the gender thing, too, on separate occasions.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=644.65,668.37"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/77","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Okay.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=669.0,669.0"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/78","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e And she was like, Can you just decide kind of a thing? Yeah, she was. She didn't take me seriously at all. He really was just like, you know, I just think you're making this up. You're making your life harder for yourself. You're just going through a stage.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=669.72,682.56"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/79","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Like.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=683.76,683.76"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/80","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e Do you need attention? Yeah.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=683.94,685.95"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/81","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Oh, I was really.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=686.35,688.32"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/82","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e Crazy. So after that, I actually for many years had this belief that there's no such thing as bisexual.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=689.52,695.97"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/83","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Mhm.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=696.81,696.81"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/84","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e And I just, I wouldn't accept it in other people but I did that because I didn't accept it in myself. So you know how they say sometimes the things that annoy you the most about other people or what actually annoy you about yourself.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=697.56,708.96"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/85","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e I think so. Oh my God. Why is my body. Sorry. Oh, it's okay. Are you okay? Yeah. No, I'm okay. No, I'm sorry. Go ahead.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=710.31,721.74"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/86","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e So for me, it's like I just couldn't accept that about myself. And I wasn't involved in the community. I visited the center, actually, a couple of times last year. Just popped in. But I never stayed because I don't feel comfortable. Hmm. Really? Yeah. And it wasn't because I didn't feel comfortable with the people there. It's just. I felt there was something wrong with me if I associated myself with that group.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=722.76,746.16"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/87","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e We're talking with the LGBT Center on campus, Right? Okay, Just curious.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=746.85,751.29"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/88","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e So I was like, okay. And then when I started dating my current partner, who is since male and also straight, um, I was at that point where I was kind of like, okay, I'm she, you know, like I it's just for me, whatever. 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I don't think you're actually straight, but you never told me that outright. It was more like I would have these conversations with him about my sexuality and my gender identity and things, and he would listen and he'd be like, you know, kind of agree with me, basically give me validation that he needed.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=787.5,811.59"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/93","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Oh, good.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=812.13,812.43"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/94","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e So then this is my third coming out, our fourth one, actually. And what happened was I got really.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=813.57,821.43"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/95","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Drunk, okay?","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=821.82,822.42"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/96","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e And I thought he was a girl.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=823.2,824.58"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/97","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Yeah, He thought.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=826.79,827.63"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/98","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e I thought he was a girl. Yeah.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=828.47,831.17"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/99","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Oh, we. So where like, where, where and when.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=832.4,836.48"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/100","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e And where is. Is in a room.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=836.9,838.07"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/101","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Okay.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=838.88,838.88"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/102","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e Cause, like, we drink together and I like to get wicked drunk.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=839.36,842.96"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/103","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Okay?","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=843.38,843.38"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/104","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e I do. I like to get drunk to the point where I just puke a lot.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=844.4,847.7"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/105","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e You? Uh huh. I don't like doing that. Yeah, I like it. No judgment.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=848.12,852.26"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/106","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e No, it's okay. And so I was so drunk I could barely talk or move. And I just for whatever reason, I body was a girl. I was like, Come here. Behave like you're so sexy. I just get like, what's your number?","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=852.92,868.67"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/107","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Like, you know, stuff like that.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=869.48,870.47"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/108","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e And then so I don't exactly remember this, but this is what he told me. I'm he was like, So do you think I'm a girl? And I'm like, Yeah, what do you mean? Like, are you gender? Like, is I totally not. He's a girl. Uh huh. We don't not, not meaning to be offensive to trans people, but like, I was, I was wicked drunk.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=871.55,890.48"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/109","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Uh huh.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=890.94,891.05"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/110","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e So then you're like, Well, what do you want to do? The reason I started seeing all these, like, explicitly sex. Oh.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=891.59,897.32"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/111","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e My God. Yeah.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=897.95,898.71"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/112","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e And then afterwards I was like, Yeah, it's because I'm a lesbian. And they, like, said that.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=900.44,905.84"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/113","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Like, I am very good. I like you. Oh, my God.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=906.41,910.76"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/114","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e Yeah. So then afterwards, after I became sober, you're like, I can briefly remember. And then like, we had a conversation about it. I don't exactly remember everything, but I just remember thinking that he was a girl. But I didn't realize to what extent or in what context.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=911.18,923.9"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/115","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e And so yeah.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=927.77,929.39"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/116","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e Then I was like, okay, I finally have to admit it. Like it's caught up to me. I was like, I am not made here. Yeah, I was.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=930.26,939.8"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/117","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Mhm. Yeah.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=940.52,941.21"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/118","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e And actually half of the closet is like my guys clothes.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=942.32,945.74"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/119","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Oh yeah.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=946.47,946.91"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/120","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e So I have my feminine wardrobe and I have my masculine wardrobe in there.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=947.21,950.72"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/121","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Mhm. Yeah. Nice. So would you. So even though you're non-binary you consider yourself a lesbian.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=951.08,961.58"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/122","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e Yeah. Because the reason why I use the word lesbian and I take it and I own the word lesbian is because I've been in the closet for such a long time and struggled with it so much that I feel like I'm almost taking back what I lost.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=962.72,975.65"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/123","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Okay.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=977.12,977.12"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/124","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e Yeah. So for me, it's more like reclaiming the word.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=977.81,980.33"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/125","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Mhm.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=981.08,981.08"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/126","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e The reason I use the word lesbian, because people, when they think of lesbian they think porn, you know, or they think to girls experimenting or they always kind of have some sort of like sexual notation to it or they don't think that real lesbians exist. Whereas for me it's like, no, I knew from a young age how I felt and every time I tried coming out to people, they either made fun of me or didn't take me seriously, or they used the word actually and tried to bully me by calling me a lesbian as it was even before I came out because I had short hair. So I, for me, using the word lesbian is like reclaiming it and finding power and using the word that people used against me. Yeah.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=981.59,1023.7"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/127","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Now. Okay, so pardon this question. Maybe, but like so despite your current partner being says male, you are still lesbian. And can you get into that a little bit if you don't? Oh, if you don't mind.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=1025.109,1046.829"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/128","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e You don't mind. Because this is something that actually I think I should discuss because people other people have had questions for me about it, too. Um, and it's just that, you know. Let's see. Okay. If we really get into it, like, and I'm honest and I think I should be honest, this is like he wants us to tell our story, right? Yeah. So I was sexually assaulted in my freshman year of college.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=1047.4,1076.35"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/129","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Okay.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=1077.13,1077.13"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/130","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e And I had never been with anyone. It was my very first time.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=1077.76,1080.88"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/131","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Oh, my gosh. I'm so sorry.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=1081.36,1082.98"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/132","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e Yeah. The reason I'm using sexual assault is because in case anyone hears this story, I don't want them to be triggered, you know? Okay, so that's why I'm using it. But I think you understand.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=1083.8,1091.86"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/133","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e What I do understand.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=1092.28,1093.09"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/134","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e So he was 47. I was 17.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=1094.59,1098.97"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/135","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Oh, my gosh. Mhm.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=1099.78,1100.53"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/136","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e And it was a very frightening experience that I feel like I was led into because of how my parents raised me and also because he took advantage of that. Like he knew I was very naive, vulnerable and gullible. And I had this problem with reporting everything to everyone because my parents always made me report stuff to them, what I did, who I saw, what I ate. If I didn't eat like I even had to ask them to go to the bathroom. And I was an older, well beyond potty training.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=1101.43,1135.33"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/137","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Wow.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=1136.47,1136.47"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/138","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e So, you know, I just kind of became overly trusting of him way too easily. And I told him stuff that I shouldn't tell people because I was used to just blurting things out because my parents made me. So at that time, I was still in the closet. I thought, I like the guy. So that experience kind of in a way traumatized me. And for most people, I know that after they've been sexually assaulted, they don't want to be near guys or me with guys. But it's like in a strange way, it kind of made me become overly attached to guys because I felt like, um, they were the people that lifted me up and also that hurt me really badly. And people who grew up in abusive situations have a strange relationship with pain. It's like, you know, it hurts you, but you keep, you keep going back to them because it's all you know, so it's comfortable. So after that, I stuck with guys because it was comfortable in a way, because I didn't know anything else except pain and abuse, like pretty much all my life. So I just kind of went back to that because I was too scared to be around the things that made me happy. Yeah, or that felt good, you know, I didn't even know if.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=1137.25,1223.2"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/139","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Okay.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=1223.39,1223.39"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/140","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e So after that, um, the guy I dated immediately after that was a friend of mine in high school, and we liked each other. And, you know, he really couldn't do anything during this time because my parents didn't allow us to see each other. So even though he knew what was going on, he was pretty much powerless. Um, but after that, you know, when my parents found out what happened with the assault, they kicked me out of the house.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=1224.7,1249.6"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/141","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Yeah.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=1250.83,1250.83"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/142","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e Yeah, they they. Because they felt like I was responsible for it. Yeah. Oh, my.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=1252.63,1261.66"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/143","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Uh huh.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=1262.98,1263.19"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/144","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e So after that, um, I was with my ex-boyfriend, and I live with him, and he and his family, like, help me out and things. And he was a feminine guy. He also had gender dysphoria. So even though I was with guys, I tended to go for guys that had that were entirely like, masculine or whatever. But basically for me, the reason I was was guys not to turn on is because I went to what was familiar and comfortable and because I felt like that's what I was supposed to do.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=1263.97,1300.87"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/145","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e So I.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=1302.07,1302.28"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/146","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e Didn't even look at girls as an option.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=1302.34,1303.57"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/147","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e At all.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=1303.96,1304.08"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/148","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e Uh, yeah. So, um, after my boyfriend at the time when I broke up, then I was going through a really hard time because I didn't have anyone. And then Brain.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=1305.1,1318.15"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/149","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Hmm.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=1319.74,1319.74"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/150","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e Sorry, I used the person's name.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=1320.64,1322.32"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/151","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Don't worry, I don't. There's no way at all. Okay. Yeah, but, um.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=1323.64,1328.3"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/152","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e They communicate.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=1329.36,1329.71"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/153","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Me and I.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=1330.18,1331.05"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/154","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e Like, we reconciled because we were friends in my freshman year of college, and, like, I just basically broke down and told him everything. And then he asked me out, and we ended up getting together. And it's just he was really the first person that ever introduced me to anything, like going out and hanging out with friends or picking my own clothes or, you know, eating when I wanted to eat. Um, you say parents can do that. They can fill everything and. He was like my eating issues and my getting out of bed and like he cooked for me and things like that. So it was more of like partnership and also almost like family in a way. So I could open up and I could come out to my father and we stayed together even despite that, because it's like we're so close in so many other ways, you know? And the reason I went into the whole back end story is so that whoever is listening can understand why we would be so close. Mm. It's because he was there for me. Like after everything. Yeah. Yeah. Not during because we didn't really know each other during that time, but it's like after all the aftercare, like taking care of all that stuff. Like, yeah, I think regardless of a person's gender, sexuality, like, you appreciate people who really take care of you. We get attached to them.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=1331.38,1421.12"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/155","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Yeah. I mean, how could you not? Yeah, I don't know.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=1422.44,1427.84"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/156","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e Yeah. So that's why we're still together is because just because I might not be sexually attracted to him, it doesn't.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=1428.73,1436.33"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/157","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Mean.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=1436.96,1436.96"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/158","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e I don't love him.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=1437.32,1437.83"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/159","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e In my own way. Yeah. Yeah.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=1438.01,1439.99"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/160","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e But then that also leads to an interesting possibility, which we have been considering as being polyamorous. Mm hmm. And that's that I am actually already polyamorous as polyamorous even before him.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=1442.48,1452.65"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/161","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e But, um. It's.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=1453.22,1455.15"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/162","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e Like after with what happened with the guy who's actually assaulted me and being kicked out of the house. And I was monogamist when I was with my boyfriend at the time. But then after that, I didn't feel safe being with just one person because I felt like I already lost my family. I lost all of my friends. Like, if I rely on just one person, then, you know, I'm going to lose everything when we break up.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=1458.87,1482.72"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/163","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Mm hmm.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=1485.57,1485.73"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/164","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e So I was already seeing someone else before my company asked me out. But anyways, now our third partner can be a girl.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=1486.44,1496.22"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/165","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e There you go. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. That's cool. Thank you. Mm hmm. So that's basically. If you have.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=1497.39,1504.44"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/166","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e Any questions, feel free to ask me.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=1504.59,1506.24"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/167","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Oh, nothing comes to mind. Um, but, yeah, I appreciate. I appreciate the. For lending me your time. Yeah. Yeah. No worries.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=1506.77,1521.21"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/168","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 2:\u003c/strong\u003e And that's going to be indexed.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=1525.9,1526.71"},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/169","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"\u003cstrong\u003eSpeaker 1:\u003c/strong\u003e Yeah. Yes, it will be.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833#t=1528.87,1529.89"}]},{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321","type":"AnnotationPage","label":{"en":["English [Transcript]"]},"items":[{"id":"https://archive.empathyarchive.com/collections/1731/collection_resources/56638/file/130833/transcript/49321/annotation/170","type":"Annotation","motivation":"subtitling","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"https://d9jk7wjtjpu5g.cloudfront.net/file_transcripts/associated_files/000/049/321/original/open-uri20230830-932135-lrd8ks?1693411541","format":"text/vtt","language":"en"},"target":"https://d9jk7wjtjpu5g.cloudfront.net/file_transcripts/associated_files/000/049/321/original/open-uri20230830-932135-lrd8ks?1693411541"}]}]}]}